The problem is, relationships don’t work the way we want them to.

People can be frustrating. 

If only they would change, right?

Things don’t go the way we want them to. 

It is too easy to fail at what is most important to us.

Faced with this it is normal and healthy to feel sadness, anger, fear, and even momentary guilt when we recognize our part in the problem.

But when these feelings are too big for us, 

         when sadness becomes depression, 

         when anger turns into rage, 

         when fear shifts into anxiety, 

         and when guilt falls into shame,

…now we have two problems:

our original problem and this huge mess of emotions that we don’t know how to deal with.

So we start doing things to help the feelings go away.

We isolate ourselves (because who would want to be around us), and disappear in days of Netflix binges, social media or entertainment.

We start destructive behavior — eating too much, alcohol and drug use, acting out sexually, breaking things, yelling at people.

Now we have a new problem, the new habits we’ve picked up to try to escape our feelings.

Things are only getting worse.

How Can You Break Out Of This Cycle?

Isn’t there more to life than this?