Do you want to love your children well but your anger gets in the way? You’ll be happy to know that there is a good way through it to get back to a place of love.
Understanding Anger
Anger gets a bad rap. Anger makes a great adviser, it lets us know when our boundaries have been violated and it motivates us to make changes when the status quo is not working for us. When we allow our anger to advise us instead of control us then we find that it is a very useful tool as a warning sign that something we care about is not being treated with the care that it deserves.
It is helpful to know that anger is a secondary emotion. That means that if you were to get curious about your anger then you would find another more vulnerable emotion behind it, often fear, anxiety, sadness, or shame. Anger acts as a protection for these more vulnerable emotions, covering them up and urging you into action.
The good way forward is, when we get curious about what the anger is protecting, then we have a chance to understand and resolve the underlying vulnerable emotions. Once that happens then the anger dissipates on its own — it was only there to protect the vulnerability. I’ve seen this happen many times in my personal life and when working with other people.
Anger can motivate us and serve us well, but if it starts controlling us instead of just advising us then it damages the relationships that we care about the most.
I can help
My compassionate and non-judgmental approach will help you to take better care of your children by helping you to take better care of yourself. I can help you get through the sometimes tricky process of bringing understanding and help to both your anger and the feelings that the anger is protecting. Sign up for a free 30-minute call with me using the link below to find out more.